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The people around an alcoholic


                                                        Partner                                        Employer


                                                          Parents                                    Children of an alcoholic 

                                             Pregnancy (FAS)

Dysfunctional Family is a term that defines the degree of abuse or unhealthy rules that a family follows. As with most things a dysfunctional family is defined on a continuum from minimum to maximum. Learn more about the problems of  a dysfunctional family.  

For the destructive impact of alcoholism on relationships read the real life testimonies


Co-Dependency is focusing so much on another person and their needs and problems that we forget to take care of our own well-being and emotional  mental health. Co-Dependency is often more damaging than a person with chemical dependence. To assess yourself on co-dependency click here.

Love Addiction is even more extreme than co-dependency. We become so addicted to our romantic love relationship that we allow ourselves to be treated poorly and begin to feel that we cannot live without the other person, affecting our wellness. There is often real love between the two people, but there is even a greater amount of love addiction.  


Please take some time to fill out this questionnaire:

        Yes    No
              1.) Are you able to express your feelings to your partner?

              2.) Are you able to ask your partner for what you want?

              3.) Do you feel secure in your relationship?

              4.) Are you able to show affection openly?

              5.) Do you and your partner fight fairly, that is without violent words  

                             or acts?

              6.) Are you comfortable with anger in your relationship?

              7.) Are you only sensitive to criticism from your partner?

              8.) Are you comfortable with alone time?

              9.) Are you able to negotiate and compromise with your partner?

              10.) Are you satisfied with how you and your partner communicate?

If you answered "No" to two or more of these mental health and wellness questions, you may benefit from counseling and therapy. Consider making contact with some resources. 

Please click here for more information on codependency.


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Pregnancy. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) occurs in infants born to women who drink heavily during pregnancy. Signs of this syndrome include mental retardation, poor motor coordination, hyperactivity, facial abnormalities and malformation of organ systems. The overall incidence of FAS in advanced industrial societies is 1 in every 750 children. In South Africa, FAS is thought to be by far the most common cause of mental retardation. A 1985 study found that the incidence of FAS in Cape Town is 1 per 281 live births. When examining disadvantaged communities, the incidence of fetal alcohol effects is likely to be much higher. In recent investigation of women attending antenatal classes in Cape Town, it was found that 26.4% of women drank at levels high enough to put their babies at risk for FAS.
(For advice on drinking during pregnancy, click here)



Last update: April 18, 2007


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